Diary of a Network Geek

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Don’t Tell My Mother

Filed under: Advice from your Uncle Jim,Criticism, Marginalia, and Notes,Deep Thoughts,Personal — Posted by the Network Geek during the Hour of the Tiger which is terribly early in the morning or 5:25 am for you boring, normal people.
The moon is Waxing Gibbous

I have two criteria I measure all potential posts against.

Before I post anything even remotely questionable, I ask myself three questions. First, do I care if my ex-wife knows about it? I always assume she’s reading, whether she is or not. It’s easier than obsessing over all the thousand of visitors I get and ways to conceal one’s identity when browsing. So, before I post something about my personal life, I always consider whether or not I’d care if she knew. Mostly, I don’t care, but, every once in awhile, there’s something that I’d rather not have her repeat to her daughter, who already hates me, thanks to my ex-wife’s tall tales. Honestly, there’s not much and it doesn’t happen very often, but, still, I occasionally don’t post things because I’d rather she not know about it.

The second question I ask is whether or not a potential employer or date shouldn’t know what I’m thinking of posting. If I suspect that I might post something that would put off the kind of person I’d really want to be involved with for a long period of time, I don’t post it. And, really, I spend about as much time with an employer as I do a significant other, not including time actually sleeping, so the question is the same. Also, I think the same things that would irritate a potential spouse would probably irritate a potential employer.

The last gauge I use is whether or not I’d tell my mother. In theory, she does read this blog now and again, so she might actually learn something about my life here that I’d rather she not know. Granted, there’s not much that comes to mind that wouldn’t already fall under one of the first two categories, but it is a final check that occasionally rules out a post. For instance, I don’t talk about sex much on this blog not only because it might be off-putting to an employer, but because I’m sure my mother thinks of me as a pre-adolescent, virginal, church-going, innocent boy.
I’m not, of course, but I see no need to disabuse her of that endearing misconception.

What criteria do you all use regarding posting material?
Oh, and don’t tell my mother that I grew up a long, long time ago, okay? Thanks.

Advice from your Uncle Jim:
"A friend of mine told me once that they don't lock you up for being crazy, only for acting crazy."


  1. I think you’re blog has the perfect blend. I enjoy all of your computer knowledge as well as some of the blend of your personal life. I’ve been toying with the the idea of blogging instead of just being voyeuristic but I’m not sure I have much to share, lol. And I totally agree with you on the employer/Mom thing. Keep up the good work my friend!

    Comment by Jenn — 2/19/2008 @ 8:53 am

  2. everything i post is at least 85% fiction, even if it doesn’t seem obviously so.

    Comment by kat — 2/19/2008 @ 11:02 am

  3. Kat, it’s that 15% that makes me wonder. I hope that it’s not the percentage that’s all about your ex-boyfriends, ’cause if that’s true, you’ve left quite a wake behind you!

    Jenn, I think you should go for it. You can share as much or as little as you’d like. And, don’t worry about having enough to write about. Things always seem to come up. I didn’t have much to write about when I first started, either, but now, y’all can’t get me to shut up! 😉

    Comment by the Network Geek — 2/19/2008 @ 1:25 pm

  4. If I want to write it, I write it. I do not post, however, what might hurt friends or a family member. As far as putting it out there, I don’t see any reason not to.

    Comment by Alison — 2/19/2008 @ 9:03 pm

  5. Thanks guys for the positive support. I think I will become a blogger 🙂

    Comment by Jenn — 2/20/2008 @ 8:37 am

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